What is beauty anyway?
Excerpted from a speech given June 25,
at the Myth California Pageant, Santa
here to say a few things about beauty.
One thing I have to say is
that talking about beauty leads you to talking about women. At one
time the word "beauty" was used to mean "women," and even today most
of us apply the word "beautiful" to women (and scenery) rather than to
men. This is why I'm interested in beauty; I am interested in
everything that applies unequally to women and to men in this world --
not just paychecks, either.
One thing about beauty is that
we tend to think of it as innate -- you're either beautiful or you're
not, you are or aren't born that way. If this is the case, then what
is the possible point of a beauty contest? If beauty is an innate
characteristic, how can there be any competition?
One solution to this little
contradiction is to say that our assumptions about beauty are not
true, and it is in fact something you do rather than something you are
-- then there can be a contest, to see who is best at doing
beauty.Another solution occurs if you remember that there are a lot of
contests in which innate or genetic characteristics are judged: county
fairs. Cattle shows. The perfect zucchini or the County's largest
cabbage; a prize sheep, a pedigreed dog. In this instance it is the
owner or farmer who is really competing, the skill of the farmer that
is really at issue; it isn't the sheep who enjoys the ribbon.
I believe in a portion of each
solution. I think beauty is something you do. I think that the women
who are parading around in there are being displayed to someone else's
glory and profit. You note their sashes do not say "Ms. Jane Doe," but
Miss Oroville, Miss Huntington Beach. They are displayed as exemplary
products of the economyz of their home towns; the County Fair aspect
is a bit close to the surface here.
when the blue ribbon winner is selected, her bright smile and perfect
proportions will be used to promote all kinds of products; the
successful promotion of these products will serve to put even more
money into the pockets of a very few already wealthy men. Beauty sells
a lot of things in this world: cars, hamburgers, infant formula -- and
local small-town newspapers . . .
I find it interesting, by the
way, that when scholarships are handed out to deserving young men in
this country, it is usually because they are good at either school or
football; whereas when scholarships are handed out with great fanfare
to these young women, it is because they are good at beauty.
And they are good at it. These
women (and all the rest of us to whatever extent we make the effort)
are doing something that they are judged by (and that all the rest of
us are judged by everyday). What they are doing is beauty, and it is
The natural female body, we
are told in one breath, is the loveliest thing around (and I say
thing, because that's the tone in which we are told this); and in the
next breath we are ordered to starve ourselves, change our voices,
paint our faces, shave our bodies, watch how we dress and mind our
manners -- because, after all, the natural woman is loud, fat, hairy,
smelly, and UGLY. Beauty as we see it enshrined here is an illusion,
and it's a big effort (and a big business) to keep it up. The shell of
the perfect woman is stressful and expensive to maintain; the contest
is to see who does it best.
And what is this ideal beauty?
What is she like? Well, she's thin, and she shouldn't look obviously
muscular or strong. Her body's contours must meet a fairly precise
technical specification for softness and curvature, while containing
only the minimum amount of fat and flesh necessary. There is a whole
industry built on taking the fat and flesh off women's bones so that
men can look at thin women. Some woman starve themselves to death,
trying to be thin enough.
The ideal beauty is shorter
than the man looking at her. she should have shiny, glossy hair, and
lots of it -- but only on her head, of course! Leg hair, underarm
hair, any visible hairiness, even on the forearms, but especially on
the face -- it all has to go. There is whole industry built on the
removal of the hair that naturally grows on women's bodies. Millions
of women alter their bodies, sometimes painfully, often damaging their
skin, so men can look at hairless women -- what they puzzlingly
continue to call "real women."
The perfect beauty is white.
The perfect beauty is under 25 . . . 30
is the absolute ceiling; and these days, the 12-to-18-year-old is the
true beauty. At any rate, the beauty should be younger than the man who
is looking at her. She should have soft skin, without marks of age or
character. There is an industry built on the concealment of the real
textures of women's skin.
The perfect beauty has large
eyes, large in proportion to her face. She has full red lips, a small
delicate nose, a face wide at the temples and narrow at the jaw, a
dainty neck. An industry is built on the alteration of women's faces so
they may more and more resemble the faces of children; so they may
imitate, by surgery or by skillful application of paints and powders,
the facial proportions of the prepubescent child. Women apply
carcinogenic substances to their faces, animals are tortured to produce
and test said substances, some of us spend over two hours daily
maintaining our faces . . . so that men can look at women who look like
children rather than mature human beings.
When I was in my teens, I lived
in L.A., and in a head shop (if you remember head shops) in L.A., I saw
a poster called "Dream Girl." It was a large black-and-white of a naked
10-or-12-year-old girl, with large adult breasts airbrushed onto her
chest. It disturbed me at the time, and it disturbs me even more now.
Now I see what truth escaped in
the making of that image. That is America's dream girl, all right. It
disturbs me that the ideal beauty is supposed to resemble a child except
for her breasts. Children are surely the most powerless class of people
alive in this world; and it disturbs me that women must imitate the look
and manner of those even more powerless than ourselves, to be considered
beautiful. And it disturbs me because I know that we are only now
measuring the tip of the iceberg of child sexual abuse in this country,
and the results are horrifying me. It should be profoundly shocking to
us, how many men feel just fine about forcing their sexuality on their
own and other people's daughters: how many men can see an eight-year-old
child as a seductive sexual object and a suitable conquest. But how
shocked should we be? Look, after all, what the attractive woman is
supposed to be: hairless, soft, weak. Timid, eager to please, innocent,
frivolous. Powerless. It is an unspoken rule of male supremacy that men
are not permitted to be attracted to anyone as their equal.
What I see as being the issue in
a beauty contest is loyalty. There is a competition to see who is most
loyal to this imposed definition of womanhood and beauty -- the ideal
female who is shorter, weaker, and more childlike than the ideal male
(or any man who looks at her). The ideal female, who is insecure enough
that she has to alter her natural appearance completely before she feels
confident or good about herself. Who is rewarded for altering her
natural appearance completely. Who is rewarded
if she shows the considerable lengths she is prepared to go to, to
please men's aesthetic sense, to mould herself into someone else's Dream
The successful contestant is
rewarded for her obedience to an ideal; but women who are not beautiful,
who are not good at beauty, live daily with the punishments handed out
for disobedience. The insults, the yells on the street; the fat jokes;
the ugly jokes; the old lady jokes. The loss of a job, the loss of a
promotion, the loss of a husband. The gradual erosion of self-worth. The
vicious inner voice of implanted self-hatred.
If real beauty is the contrived
and artificial image we see before us tonight, then every woman in
America must know in her heart that her own real body, her own real and
familiar face, her own ordinary hair, her genuine individual scent and
the way she looks and moves when she is out of costume and not on
display -- that all these things are a disappointment and a failure. She
must know that only as a delusion is she rewarded, admired, beautiful.
That her real self is unacceptable, a flaw, a burden growing more and
more unforgivable every year, something ugly to be hidden and
camouflaged with all the technology of beauty that she can afford.
Now that is a hell of a way to feel
about your own body.
Beauty is everything no living woman can
ever be: the timeless twelve-year-old with the twenty-five-year-old
breasts, the one who never sweats, who never wrinkles, is always ready
to be displayed and never gets tired of being judged. The Perma-Pressed
female, ever ready to please, always smiling, never aging, always
innocent and always sexually available.
Beauty is everything real women
are instructed to be: insecure, weak, ingratiating, our whole self-worth
invested in how well we please the eyes of men. Beauty is a smile that
endures whether or not we feel like smiling, a youthful appearance that
denies any age and wisdom we may have earned, a pretty empty-headedness
that banishes the threat that we might think real thoughts and assert
real opinions. Beauty is a political idea. It is a set of standards we
are told to conform to -- even if it takes surgery to do so! -- it is a
set of behaviors to which we are restricted. It defines what is good,
useful, acceptable, worthwhile in a woman. What makes young women worthy
of a scholarship: passivity, obedience, youth, a healthy body and a
glossy head of hair. All the virtues of a blue ribbon Hereford.
live in a state of White Supremacy, and the ideal beauty is White. We
live in a state of Male Supremacy, and the ideal beauty is pleasing,
polite, smiling, small, weak: no challenge, really, to anyone's ego or
privileges. We live in a state which condones and encourages the
accumulation of wealth and power in the hands of a very few at
horrendous cost to very many; and the ideal beauty imitates the wealthy.
Her hands bear no signs of hard labour, her face no marks of sorrow or
anger; her clothes are expensive and her makeup sometimes more so; she
is well fed and cheerful. It takes money to keep up beauty, so poverty
and beauty don't sit down well together; some of you may have noticed
the unusual number of shiny big cars around this week . . .
And this is what I really have
to say to you tonight. Beauty is a political idea. What we perceive as
lovely defines our loyalties.
And if we are to challenge the
institutions of wealth and poverty; and if we are to confront and
overcome the institutions of racism (within and without us); and if we
are to end, FOREVER, the use of women as slave labour and as livestock:
then we are going to have to change, radically, what we ourselves think
about beauty, what our whole world thinks about beauty -- not just what
happens in that building once a year.